S:0129 Distinction: Excellence vs. “It’ll Do”

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   How many times have you said, when wrapping up a task, “it’ll do”, then later regret not having done a better job? We usually accept “it’ll do’s” when we’re in a hurry or when we think…Continue Reading →

S:0128 Top 10 List: Top 10 Ways to Be Unconditionally Constructive

1. Point out the person’s strengths, not their weaknesses. 2. Point out what was good that was behind a person’s actions, even if the result didn’t work out. 3. Empathize, then endorse and reinforce, repeatedly. 4. Make the person feel normal for whatever they are experiencing. 5. Acknowledge the person, accurately and without puffery. 6.…Continue Reading →

S:0127 Principle: Attainment – #7 Market Your Talents Shamelessly

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.)   Golda Meir is said to have said “Don’t be humble; you’re not that great.” Humility is exhausting and anything that takes that much energy is not attractive. To “market your talents shamelessly” means to discover and language the…Continue Reading →

S:0126 Quote: Separateness

(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.)   “The fundamental delusion of humanity is to suppose that I am here and you are out there.” Yasutani Roshi   Coaching Point: Do you know why you feel separate-from?   Copyright 1998 Steve Straus. All rights reserved.Continue Reading →