S:0847 Distinction: Mystery vs. Puzzle

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Mystery and puzzle are words which are often used interchangeably, but there is a big difference — which causes a Distinction — between them. Jigsaw, crossword, and Sudoku are all forms of puzzles. Puzzles share the…Continue Reading →

S:0846 Distinction: Allowing For Someone’s Humanity vs. Giving Them The Benefit of The Doubt

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   On the surface it sounds like a good idea to give someone the ‘benefit of the doubt,’ but it has hidden problems. You may think you’re being gracious, open for different viewpoints. You may think it’s…Continue Reading →

S:0845 Quote: Optical Delusion

(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.)   “A human being is a part of the whole, called by us ‘Universe,’ a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings as something separated from the rest – a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a…Continue Reading →

S:0844 Distinction: Cause vs. Correlate

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   In a world of sound-bites and Wiki-bits, of watching Talking-Heads instead of doing our own reading, of assuming ‘experts’ are unbiased and telling us the ‘truth,’ we have the potential to mistake Cause for Correlate. Cause…Continue Reading →

S:0843 Distinction: Read vs. Read Into

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Have you ever had someone receive an email you sent and read into it something different than what you meant to convey? Why do they do that? It’s because everybody — everybody — processes the world…Continue Reading →

S:0842 Principle: Joy of Death

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.)   “The Joy of Death?!” What? How can there be joy in death? Sure, you know intellectually you’re going to die, but most people tend to try to ignore the fact. Put off thinking about it. Hope it never…Continue Reading →

S:0841 Principle: Hear-Feel-Respond

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.)   This principle is one which, while fundamental to powerful, effective Coaching, is also useful for any human-to-human communication. It’s simple on the surface, but deeply sophisticated in practice. The first part, hear, means to hear everything — what…Continue Reading →

S:0840 Great Fear: Living a Life Without Purpose

(Great fears are barriers to experiencing your real life.)   Several years ago there was a popular song, still heard occasionally, titled “Is That All There Is?” It was about self-evaluation, unrequited requests, longing. This is a refrain you tend to hear from people who have lived a few years and feel they are closer…Continue Reading →

S:0839 Quote: Cracked

(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.)   The title of a painting hanging in an art supply store in Chicago… “It’s the ones who have cracked that let the light shine through.” Christie Chew-Wallace, Artist   Coaching Point: Have you ever felt cracked? A little (or a lot!) ‘off?’ The alien in your…Continue Reading →

S:0838 Distinction: Question vs. Answer

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   This Distinction may seem backwards; the answer may seem more important than the question. But maybe not. When confronted by a situation — an issue, a problem, a barrier — it’s pretty normal to immediately jump…Continue Reading →

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