S:1056 Distinction: Enlighten vs. Lecture

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Don’t lecture me. Don’t make me wrong, ‘should on’ me, act superior, or treat me like I’m stupid. You do – subtlety or overtly – and I’ll dig in my heels and push back, or at…Continue Reading →

S:1055 Great Question: Let Go?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “What do I need to let go of?”   Coaching Point: Hanging onto old hurts, unfulfilled desires, and attachments is expensive. Dragging around fears, guilts, angers, and resentments is tiring. Keeping an image of yourself which is less than what you really are is,…Continue Reading →

S:1054 Distinction: Make Better vs. Improve

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Have you ever bought a product you’ve used for a long time, and really like, and then discovered it’s now ‘New!’ and ‘Improved!’? Most of us have. Did you agree with the vendor that the product…Continue Reading →

S:1053 Great Question: True?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)   “For ______ to occur, what must be true?”   Coaching Point: This Great Question has two parts. The ______ is whatever outcome you are seeking. This future part of the question must be in place before you can look at the rest. Many other…Continue Reading →