S:1151 Distinction: Slow Down vs. Double Down

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   I was talking with a person who had recently experienced a rather significant adverse health issue, the kind that classically causes one to reconsider how they are doing life and then initiate a slowdown. Instead, this…Continue Reading →

S:1142 Distinction: Healed vs. Relieved

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Relief, escaped, relieved – all of these are about getting away from something which doesn’t feel good or is even painful. An example is a zit on the nose of a teenager. Once pricked, the pain…Continue Reading →

S:1138 Distinction: Reconciled vs. Resigned

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Resigned can have a sense of loss, less-than, let-down, give-up, and sadness. Whatever it is you wanted didn’t come to pass, now looks like it won’t ever, and that missing-the-boat feeling isn’t great. While it’s always…Continue Reading →

S:1134 Distinction: Signal vs. Noise

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Closet engineer? Guilty as charged; one of my majors was mechanical engineering so I admit to a deep undercurrent thrum of logical and linear thinking. Now opened to feelings, inspiration, creativity, and intuition, the major influencers…Continue Reading →

S:1125 Distinction: Responsible vs. Paranoid

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Of course, be responsible for seeing the truth of your world. Be responsible for correcting anything (within your control) which is preventing your life from working well. To be responsible is healthy and rewarding. Then there…Continue Reading →

S:1121 Distinction: Integrity vs. Ethics

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   The words integrity and ethics are often used somewhat interchangeably. And incorrectly so. Ethics describe behavior relative to some defined scale – moral/immoral, right/wrong, just/unjust, etc. There is a place for ethics and for the teachers…Continue Reading →

S:1118 Distinction: Windshields vs. Rear-view Mirrors

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Windshields are bigger than rear-view mirrors for a reason. It is much more effective to look forward at what you are creating versus looking backward at the receding un-changeable past. In addition to countless delights, the…Continue Reading →

S:1117 Distinction: Truth vs. Cliché

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   This one is a trick. Distinctions are usually comparisons between two ideas/things/issues which are similar, but different enough to cause an ah-ha, a greater awareness. This Distinction is a trick because the two sides of it…Continue Reading →

S:1112 Distinction: Participate vs. Perfect

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   One of my talents – as identified in the StrengthsFinder assessment – is called Maximizer. It is my number one, top-of-the-list talent. That means I’m motivated, at the deepest levels of my wiring, to want to…Continue Reading →

S:1100 Distinction: Let Go Of It vs. Quit It

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Have you ever had a behavior you knew wasn’t good for you and you wanted to stop it? And you tried to quit? And you did … for a while? Welcome to the world of normal.…Continue Reading →

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