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S:1351 Distinction: Stop-Doings vs. To-Dos

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) When overwhelmed by more and more things to do most people throw up their hands and quit in frustration. What if you did part of that intentionally? What if you had your to-do list, sure, but also…Continue Reading →

S:1350 Great Question: Happy?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What are the consequences of my not being happy?” Coaching Point: This Great Question flips the happiness topic on its head. Usually we ask – What does it take for me to be happy? Or is it okay for me to focus on happiness? Or…Continue Reading →

S:1349 Quote: Preferences and Constraints

(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “Preferences are optional and subject to constraints,whereas constraints are neither optional nor subject to preference.” Author Unknown Coaching Point: There is so much wisdom in this quote. We see the two subjects – preferences and constraints – get swapped, intermingled, and reversed. It’s sometimes hard to see…Continue Reading →

S:1348 Great Question: Unrequited?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What is my greatest unrequited desire?” Coaching Point: It has been said that desire is the source of all suffering, however this S3MC looks at a desire not yet experienced as a good thing. Of course, if you are suffering because something you want is…Continue Reading →

S:1347 Distinction: Beacon vs. Flashlight

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Driving in the early morning dark there was a flash of light reflected off low clouds. When it repeated at consistent intervals it revealed as the rotating light from the beacon at a distant airport. [Most Distinctions…Continue Reading →

S:1346 Principle: Life Rules

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) Yes, Life Rules is a play on words. There are some immutable rules, Life Rules. Those rules, being immutable, thus Rule. Fighting them is not a good idea. Some Life Rules: Water runs downhill. Trees grow up. Everything ends.…Continue Reading →

S:1345 Great Question: Generous?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “When Do I feel I Am My Most Generous?” Coaching Point: Generous has no cost. Hold on, I’ll defend that in a moment. First let’s look at some common forms of generosity. You can observe others giving time, skills, money, caring, support, all clear generous…Continue Reading →

S:1344 Quote: Change The Ending

(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “You can’t go back and change the beginning,but you can start where you are and change the ending.” C.S. Lewis Coaching Point: This Quote seems to not be true for many people because they are stuck in “This is just the way I am” or “This is…Continue Reading →

S:1343 Principle: Potato Chip Payoff

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) Do you like to eat potato chips? Or know someone who does? People who eat potato chips do so to get a payoff. Right now you may be raising your hand to make the argument that potato chips are…Continue Reading →

S:1342 Great Question: Want, Now?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What do I want, now?” Coaching Point: You may think you always know the answer, but experience with a wide array of personalities, intellects, interests, and histories shows it’s not such a simple question. Okay, it is simple, but for most not easy to answer.…Continue Reading →

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