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S:1224 Distinction: Get Over It vs. Cover It Over

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) We have a conditioned response to avoid pain, or at least minimize it. This can cause us to mask it, Cover It Over with something more pleasant. The problem with the ‘cover up’ job is that the…Continue Reading →

S:1223 Principle: Measure

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) Never measure yourself by what others can do. Only by what you can do. Sure, be inspired by what someone else can do or has done. Use that inspiration to motivate yourself. Measuring/comparing relative to them is something else.…Continue Reading →

S:1222 Distinction: Questions vs. Answers

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) One might not immediately think that Questions and Answers would be poles of a Distinction. But they are and they are heavily influenced by…Sherlock Holmes. [Yes, I know he is a fictional character of Arthur Conan Doyle,…Continue Reading →

S:1221 Principle: Focus

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) There is an old bit of wisdom – “When a pickpocket meets a saint, he only sees his pockets.” It’s about where we choose to put our focus. Since we tend to see what we look for it’s important…Continue Reading →

S:1220 Great Fear: Of Loss

(Great fears are barriers to experiencing your real life.) A fear of loss can have at least two major ways it diminishes your freedom, your happiness. First is the constriction you feel about losing something you have. A classic example is inherited wealth. There are plenty of case histories showing 2nd and 3rd generations who…Continue Reading →

S:1219 Quote: Trading Lesser For Greater

(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “Let go of the lesser in order to experience the greater. This is not a bad bargain.” Ernest Holmes Coaching Point: This would seem the perfect example of a no-brainer. Who wouldn’t make that lesser-for-greater trade? Most of us, it turns out. We get stuck in the…Continue Reading →

S:1218 Distinction: New Mattress vs. New Sheets

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) New sheets are a simple way to freshen up a bed. Of course. But if the mattress is worn out, putting new sheets on it won’t improve your sleep. Yet that’s exactly what we do sometimes: we…Continue Reading →

S:1217 Great Question: Look Forward To?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What do I have to look forward to?” Coaching Point: You do have something you’re looking forward to, don’t you? Something interesting, maybe even exciting? Something which pulls you forward in healthy anticipation? Or do most days seem to be only attempts to escape? To…Continue Reading →

S:1216 Principle: Happiness

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) Happiness is a response. Many look to external events to ‘provide’ their happiness. The only thing externals do is trigger responses from within. One response is happiness. The unrestrained laughter of a child; a sunrise or sunset; your sports…Continue Reading →

S:1215 Principle: Change

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) Nothing changes if nothing changes. Coaching Point: If you are stuck, why?If you are waiting for change to happen, why? Copyright 2019 Steve Straus. All rights reserved.Continue Reading →

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