S:0487 Principle: Flip the Puzzle

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.)   Sometimes life can be like trying to put together a jigsaw puzzle while it s face down. It s hard, frustrating, confusing, and, ultimately, unsatisfying.   Coaching point: Can you ask someone to help you flip it over […]

S:0486 Principle: Well Dogs and Sick Dogs

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.)   There is an old Southern (U.S.) saying, “[If]You put a well dog in a room with a sick dog, you shouldn’t expect the sick dog to get well.” Attempts at veterinary medicine aside, you can see the wisdom […]

S:0485 Distinction: Initiating vs. Accomodating

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   It s always nice when someone is accommodating, willing to go along, be agreeable. If what you want is fine with them and they accommodate your needs, harmony can result. But sometimes you want them to […]

S:0484 Distinction: Middle-age Conscious vs. Middle-age Crazy

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   The term “middle-age crazy” brings to mind a variety of sudden, weird behaviors exhibited by some people who have reached a certain point in life. A few triggering events of this condition are — noticing how […]

S:0483 Quote: Finding Your Place

(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.)   “If you do not feel yourself growing in your work and your life broadening and deepening, if your task is not a perpetual tonic to you, you have not found your place.” Orison Swett Marden (1850-1924)   Coaching Point: There is still time. Start now!   […]

S:0482 Distinction: Proud vs. Prideful

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Think of someone who is conceited. They act stuck-up, perhaps even snobbish. They may give off an air of disdainful superiority and appear patronizing. They can be cocky, condescending, and pretentious. These are the attributes of someone […]

S:0481 Distinction: Determined vs. Stubborn

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Since the universe rewards action, sticking to a plan or course of action will typically produce more results for you than an on-again-off-again approach. But there are limits. When you are determined to have an outcome […]

S:0480 Distinction: Delegate vs. Abdicate

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   You can t do everything. Sometimes you need to delegate to others. Effective delegation is one of the hallmarks of a successful leader or manager. When you give a task to someone and also give them […]

S:0479 Distinction: Request vs. Demand

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Most people don’t know how to make requests. They do know how to demand. They also know how to plead, lecture, attack, whine, and hint. They also may know how to tell a story with the […]

S:0478 Distinction: Confident vs. Arrogant

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Remember the last time you really felt confident about something. Attributes of your confidence were strength, ease, calmness, and clarity. You were not worried. Now picture someone who is arrogant. Do they exhibit edginess and self-importance? Are […]