S:1186 Great Fear: Of Being Overwhelmed

(Great fears are barriers to experiencing your real life.) [There are countless fears, yet few are of the level of the Great Fears. A Great Fear is noted by its commonness and its effect; it shows up in a large part of society and can have a numbing effect on one’s happiness.]   This Great…Continue Reading →

S:1185 Distinction: Discern vs. Judge

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   One of the most useful skills one can develop is discernment. The skill takes desire – you must want it. It takes awareness – you must be able to feel. And it takes self-esteem – you…Continue Reading →

S:1184 Quote: Wisdom

(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.)   “Wisdom is the reward for a lifetime of listening…when you’d have preferred to talk.” D.J. Kaufman.   Coaching Point: Why oh why is it sometimes so hard to listen? Oh, I know, it’s because I’m so smart and know so much! Yeah, that’s it. Really? Wouldn’t…Continue Reading →

S:1183 Distinction: Why vs. Should

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Imagine (or remember) someone lecturing you, perhaps while shaking their finger at you, and telling what you should do, should have done, shouldn’t do, or shouldn’t have done. What kind of feelings does that image evoke…Continue Reading →