S:1303 Great Fear: Of Success
(Great fears are barriers to experiencing your real life.) This has been a popular topic for years, but it’s one I’ve never really bought into. The reason is Fear of Success is nearly always fronting for one or more other issues. A fear of ‘the other shoe dropping’ is common, a euphemism for expecting to […]
S:1302 Great Question: Rules?
(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What rules am I following that I wish I could break?” Coaching Point: The answers to this Great Question are evoked through three inquiries. To begin, what are the rules you’re following and who established them? Did you learn them yourself or merely inherit them? […]
S:1301 Quote: Values
(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “The most important values in life are caught, not taught.” Thayer Willis – Wealth counselor Coaching Point: You can teach and preach. You can lecture and plead. But what you demonstrate outshines them all. What values are being caught by the people who are important to you? […]
S:1300 Principle: Ready
(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) “Ready!” “Aim!” “Fire!” And the greatest of these is Ready. Sure, nothing happens until you ‘pull the trigger.’ That is the final creator of a result. Some hesitate to fire and miss opportunities. Others fire too soon and miss […]
S:1299 Distinction: Tired vs. Drained
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) A fundamental part of being coached is to take care of yourself. Good care of yourself. The idea is that it’s hard to be available for others when your vessel is depleted. Yes, there are people who […]
S:1298 Quote: Virtuousness
(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “Virtuousness is achieved by being virtuous, not by talking about how virtuous one is.” Aristotle Coaching Point: What does it mean to be virtuous? Honest? Maybe. Moral? Also maybe. Ethical? Again, maybe. All these fit a dictionary’s definition of virtuous. With virtue – as with other core […]
S:1297 Great Question: Know?
(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What do I think I know?” Coaching Point: Don’t let what you think you know get in the way of discovering what you don’t know. In my experience only strong, grounded people can look this challenging question in the eye. Others run from it. Because […]
S:1296 Distinction: Off Balance vs. Unbalanced
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This Distinction could seem a little muddy in meaning. It is subtle and you may even substitute different language to describe the underlying message. When you are off balance you know it, you feel it, and you […]
S:1295 Principle: Anniversaries
(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) Another S3MC addressed milestones. Anniversaries are similar to milestones, sharing many attributes, while having an important difference. There are countless kinds of anniversaries. Wedding anniversaries, of course. Also, the start date of a business; marking Twelve Step sobriety; birthday […]
S:1294 Quote: ‘Viking’ Wisdom
(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “Braver are many in word than in deed.” “The overpraised are the worst deceivers.” “When ill seed has been sown, so an ill crop will spring from it.” A collection of ancient Viking/Scandinavian/Icelandic wisdom Coaching Point: Many people have a limited awareness of the influence and effect […]