S:1322 Distinction: Are vs. Supposed To Be

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The answer to the question ‘Who are you?’ is … who you are. Hold on, don’t roll your eyes just yet. Most people have a desire to be accepted, therefore answering the ‘who are you’ question with…Continue Reading →

S:1321 Great Question: Who Benefits?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “Who benefits?” Coaching Point: When making decisions where others are involved it can be easy to pull inward and think only, or primarily, of yourself. Pretty normal but can lead to limited awareness of your options and their implications. The old saw that “Everyone is…Continue Reading →

S:1320 Personal Need: To Not Be Criticized

(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete, or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.) Most Needs reflect a feeling that something is missing, a hole in us, therefore we need the outside to supply it. Once supplied, we feel whole and okay – for a while. Then…Continue Reading →

S:1319 Great Question: Good Life?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What makes for a good life?” Coaching Point: This is almost a trick question.Some will read it looking for answers from others, the outside. An amazing percent of the population either assume they know or are willing to take what someone else says as their…Continue Reading →

S:1318 Quote: Change

(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “It’s worth remembering that for any change to happen in your life, you must be wrong about something.” “The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it.” “Uncertainty is the root of all progress and all growth.” Mark Manson Coaching Point: Change. Some love…Continue Reading →

S:1317 Principle: Caregiving

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) Ignoring the fact that caregiver and caretaker, while sounding like polar opposites, have an equivalent meaning. Ah, the joys of the English language. Let’s use caregiver in this S3MC. Caregivers have two motivations: want-to and should-do. Should-doers are motivated…Continue Reading →

S:1316 Principle: Just Decide To

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) A recent situation brought this Principle to the surface. When confronted with a fork in the road and with each road leading to unknowns and possible painful consequences, along with possible wonderful outcomes, there was a bit of frozen…Continue Reading →

S:1315 Principle: Why Work?

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) A character in a book, when asked by another why he was quitting his job and heading out into the world, replied, “I’ve been working since I was 10. I just want to find out why.” There are so…Continue Reading →

S:1314 Great Question: My Best?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “Who am I when I’m at my best?” Coaching Point: What if you were to ask this Great Question of yourself every month for a year? Or every week? Or every day? Copyright 2021 Steve Straus. All rights reserved.Continue Reading →