S:1351 Distinction: Stop-Doings vs. To-Dos

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) When overwhelmed by more and more things to do most people throw up their hands and quit in frustration. What if you did part of that intentionally? What if you had your to-do list, sure, but also…Continue Reading →

S:1350 Great Question: Happy?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What are the consequences of my not being happy?” Coaching Point: This Great Question flips the happiness topic on its head. Usually we ask – What does it take for me to be happy? Or is it okay for me to focus on happiness? Or…Continue Reading →

S:1349 Quote: Preferences and Constraints

(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “Preferences are optional and subject to constraints,whereas constraints are neither optional nor subject to preference.” Author Unknown Coaching Point: There is so much wisdom in this quote. We see the two subjects – preferences and constraints – get swapped, intermingled, and reversed. It’s sometimes hard to see…Continue Reading →

S:1348 Great Question: Unrequited?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What is my greatest unrequited desire?” Coaching Point: It has been said that desire is the source of all suffering, however this S3MC looks at a desire not yet experienced as a good thing. Of course, if you are suffering because something you want is…Continue Reading →