S:1312 Distinction: Support vs. Interfere

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) What are some prime differences which make this Distinction? Intent and attachment. If someone seeks your assistance and you choose to engage, you are probably supporting. Or if you initiate an offer of assistance and they agree,…Continue Reading →

S:1307 Distinction: Acceptance vs. Resignation

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The words Acceptance and Resignation are frequently conflated. Incorrectly so, for they have quite different meanings and energies. Acceptance is about what-is-so, right here, right now without interpretation. When you experience acceptance you are standing in your…Continue Reading →

S:1305 Distinction: Gratitude vs. Guilt

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Reading several books recently about wealth – its attributes, myths, and meaning – one of the recurring themes was guilt. Most often mentioned as an emotion experienced by people who had ascended to wealth from middle- or…Continue Reading →

S:1299 Distinction: Tired vs. Drained

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) A fundamental part of being coached is to take care of yourself. Good care of yourself. The idea is that it’s hard to be available for others when your vessel is depleted. Yes, there are people who…Continue Reading →

S:1296 Distinction: Off Balance vs. Unbalanced

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This Distinction could seem a little muddy in meaning. It is subtle and you may even substitute different language to describe the underlying message. When you are off balance you know it, you feel it, and you…Continue Reading →

S:1286 Distinction: Falling Away vs. Falling Apart

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Change. It is continuous, unrelenting, natural, necessary, and beyond the control of any individual, with two basic ways for dealing with it. One is to react and see change as a falling apart. Coming unglued. Unwound. Disintegrating.…Continue Reading →

S:1276 Distinction: Excitement vs. Anxiety

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The only real difference between excitement and anxiety is a willingness to let go of fear. Sometimes we need help with that, but it is an ‘inside’ job. Fear lives in us. Handle the fear and space…Continue Reading →

S:1273 Distinction: Prepared vs. Panicked

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Both words, prepared and panicked, are set while visiting the future. The future – unknown, mysterious, shadowy – is at its core uncertain. In that, prepared and panicked are similar. It’s their response to the uncertain future…Continue Reading →

S:1265 Distinction: Choice vs. Consequence

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Take your pick. You can focus on the one or on the other. You can move from choice to choice, dealing with whatever happens, then making a new choice from there. Or move from worry to worry,…Continue Reading →

S:1264 Distinction: Now(Now) vs. Now(Then)

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) There is no ‘A year from now.’ There is only the ‘Now’ which appears in a year. Why is this Distinction important? Because living in the future keeps you from living in the Now, the only time…Continue Reading →

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