S:1299 Distinction: Tired vs. Drained

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) A fundamental part of being coached is to take care of yourself. Good care of yourself. The idea is that it’s hard to be available for others when your vessel is depleted. Yes, there are people who…Continue Reading →

S:1296 Distinction: Off Balance vs. Unbalanced

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This Distinction could seem a little muddy in meaning. It is subtle and you may even substitute different language to describe the underlying message. When you are off balance you know it, you feel it, and you…Continue Reading →

S:1286 Distinction: Falling Away vs. Falling Apart

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Change. It is continuous, unrelenting, natural, necessary, and beyond the control of any individual, with two basic ways for dealing with it. One is to react and see change as a falling apart. Coming unglued. Unwound. Disintegrating.…Continue Reading →

S:1276 Distinction: Excitement vs. Anxiety

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The only real difference between excitement and anxiety is a willingness to let go of fear. Sometimes we need help with that, but it is an ‘inside’ job. Fear lives in us. Handle the fear and space…Continue Reading →

S:1273 Distinction: Prepared vs. Panicked

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Both words, prepared and panicked, are set while visiting the future. The future – unknown, mysterious, shadowy – is at its core uncertain. In that, prepared and panicked are similar. It’s their response to the uncertain future…Continue Reading →

S:1265 Distinction: Choice vs. Consequence

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Take your pick. You can focus on the one or on the other. You can move from choice to choice, dealing with whatever happens, then making a new choice from there. Or move from worry to worry,…Continue Reading →

S:1264 Distinction: Now(Now) vs. Now(Then)

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) There is no ‘A year from now.’ There is only the ‘Now’ which appears in a year. Why is this Distinction important? Because living in the future keeps you from living in the Now, the only time…Continue Reading →

S:1258 Distinction: Enjoy vs. Need

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) What do you feel like when you enjoy something (or someone or somewhere)? Most would describe enjoyment as a good, desirable feeling. An internal experience. You can pursue countless enjoyable outcomes. When what you are pursuing is…Continue Reading →

S:1252 Distinction: Attract vs. Make Happen

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) There is plenty of satisfaction to be received from making things happen. You can get your emotional needs met, accomplish meaningful outcomes, prove your self-worth, and stand out from the pack by bowing your back and taking…Continue Reading →

S:1247 Distinction: Agree vs. Admit

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Admit has a sense of wrongdoing; a confession; a coming clean. One admits to a crime. Probably useful in many situations but notice there’s a bit of less-than in admitting. When I admit something to you, I…Continue Reading →

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