S:1200 Distinction: Essence vs. Appearance

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   It is quite difficult to discern essence from appearance, until it isn’t. You can probably recall numerous examples from your past where you thought something was one way (its appearance) and then later, perhaps in a…Continue Reading →

S:1194 Distinction: Progress vs. Pedals

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Imagine a bicycle. If you only look down at the pedals you can believe you are only moving in circles. Busy, but no progress. The view out over the handlebars is different. You see that the…Continue Reading →

S:1190 Distinction: Pain vs. Suffering

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Pain is a sensation. Suffering is an emotional reaction to pain. Of course you want to lessen or eliminate the pain sensation. Maybe you can’t stop it immediately, the condition is what it is. The pain…Continue Reading →

S:1189 Distinction: To Age vs. Be Old

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   This Distinction zeroes in on attitude rather than years. Sure, you will age, but old is a function of more than the calendar. I got to see this up close when a long-time friend started ‘getting…Continue Reading →

S:1185 Distinction: Discern vs. Judge

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   One of the most useful skills one can develop is discernment. The skill takes desire – you must want it. It takes awareness – you must be able to feel. And it takes self-esteem – you…Continue Reading →

S:1183 Distinction: Why vs. Should

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Imagine (or remember) someone lecturing you, perhaps while shaking their finger at you, and telling what you should do, should have done, shouldn’t do, or shouldn’t have done. What kind of feelings does that image evoke…Continue Reading →

S:1179 Distinction: Mellow Drama vs. Melodrama

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Mellow Drama = Interesting characters, engaging situations, clever dialog, problems solved, satisfying conclusion, curtain closes, lights go up, everybody goes home pleased. Melodrama = Not the above.   Coaching Point: And your choice is?   Copyright…Continue Reading →

S:1172 Distinction: Advantage vs. Aberration

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   To have an advantage is to have an edge, a leg up, a better view. Looking for, and finding advantages is part of becoming, and staying, successful. Successful in business, of course, but advantages are useful…Continue Reading →

S:1166 Distinction: Expertise vs. Experience

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   This is an easy Distinction to understand, but can be a difficult one to live. Each time we experience something we add to that base of experience. Do that enough and we are said to “have…Continue Reading →

S:1163 Distinction: Open vs. Skeptical

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)   Skepticism doesn’t help you see. Or hear. Or feel. It does have its uses, but is best served in small portions. To be open can be hard. If you’re not careful you might get hurt, taken…Continue Reading →

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