S:1538 Distinction: For vs. Against
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value, or attitude.) Intention is a major designer of your life. Wherever you put your attention defines your intention. And to intend toward an outcome with awareness is more effective than to act without awareness. Whatever you give your attention […]
S:1537 Distinction: Opportunity vs. Test
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value, or attitude.) Unpleasant things happen from time to time. Sudden or after festering. Not desired. But still, you have to deal with them. You have two ways to look at each situation. One – a popular one – is […]
S:1535 Distinction: Enjoy vs. Endure
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value, or attitude.) Sometimes, people feel a little guilty enjoying parts of their lives. They think about all the things they haven’t done yet. They find themselves programmed by the tyranny of the to-do list. This can result in enduring […]
S:1530 Distinction: Taking Risks vs. Being Risky
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value, or attitude.) There is a world of difference between these two, but many times they get conflated. Let’s tease them apart. Life is risk. Period. No way to change that. Trying to wish away risk is not a useful […]
S:1527 Distinction: Willingness vs. Willfulness
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value, or attitude.) Willfulness can be about having a need. It can be a need to be first or to be right or superior. Willful people define themselves as better than others. They “know” the answer. Willfulness is a tool […]
S:1520 Distinction: Up vs. Down
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value, or attitude.) Imagine you are in your workshop, or your kitchen, or your office. Now imagine you have finished using a tool, appliance, or utensil. At that point, many people would put down what they had finished using. That […]
S:1515 Distinction: Learn From vs. Overwhelmed By
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value, or attitude.) Emotions. Part of the human experience. To feel emotions is a gift. And can sometimes feel like a curse. There are two aspects of emotions reviewed here. First, it takes awareness and training to be able to […]
S:1509 Distinction: Responsible vs. At Fault
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value, or attitude.) This is simple. Be responsible for what happens in your life. Own it. Know that – consciously or unconsciously – you have a hand in what happens to you. A responsible person is free. Feeling that you’re […]
S:1504 Distinction: Validation vs. Approval
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value, or attitude.) Approval can feel really good. Like being included in ‘the club,’ being recognized for a performance. Or meeting the standards of others. Approval is like an endorsement from outside. Approval can be need-based, which is the tricky, […]
S:1501 Distinction: Expand vs. Constrict
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value, or attitude.) A belief can be like a flywheel. When we hear information that agrees with a belief, it adds energy to the flywheel. This strengthens the belief. A risk of this is the well-known confirmation bias. It constricts. […]