S:1276 Distinction: Excitement vs. Anxiety

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The only real difference between excitement and anxiety is a willingness to let go of fear. Sometimes we need help with that, but it is an ‘inside’ job. Fear lives in us. Handle the fear and space…Continue Reading →

S:1273 Distinction: Prepared vs. Panicked

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Both words, prepared and panicked, are set while visiting the future. The future – unknown, mysterious, shadowy – is at its core uncertain. In that, prepared and panicked are similar. It’s their response to the uncertain future…Continue Reading →

S:1265 Distinction: Choice vs. Consequence

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Take your pick. You can focus on the one or on the other. You can move from choice to choice, dealing with whatever happens, then making a new choice from there. Or move from worry to worry,…Continue Reading →

S:1264 Distinction: Now(Now) vs. Now(Then)

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) There is no ‘A year from now.’ There is only the ‘Now’ which appears in a year. Why is this Distinction important? Because living in the future keeps you from living in the Now, the only time…Continue Reading →

S:1258 Distinction: Enjoy vs. Need

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) What do you feel like when you enjoy something (or someone or somewhere)? Most would describe enjoyment as a good, desirable feeling. An internal experience. You can pursue countless enjoyable outcomes. When what you are pursuing is…Continue Reading →

S:1252 Distinction: Attract vs. Make Happen

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) There is plenty of satisfaction to be received from making things happen. You can get your emotional needs met, accomplish meaningful outcomes, prove your self-worth, and stand out from the pack by bowing your back and taking…Continue Reading →

S:1247 Distinction: Agree vs. Admit

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Admit has a sense of wrongdoing; a confession; a coming clean. One admits to a crime. Probably useful in many situations but notice there’s a bit of less-than in admitting. When I admit something to you, I…Continue Reading →

S:1243 Distinction: Persist vs. Force

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) A prime source of problems is Trying To Force An Outcome. If you enjoy solving problems, then spend your time forcing outcomes and you’ll have a steady supply! Many problems appear to come from the outside, but…Continue Reading →

S:1237 Distinction: A Value vs. A Need

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This is a particularly useful Distinction when looking into basic human motivations. We show up, perform, and achieve outcomes for different reasons and with a range of motivations. One of the most important is the set of…Continue Reading →

S:1233 Distinction: To Connect vs. To Network

S:1233 Distinction: To Connect vs. To Network(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) [The very first S3MC was delivered August 2nd, 1995, at the beginning of a weekly meeting of a business networking group in Dallas (CEO Network). As I explained in the introduction…Continue Reading →

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