S:1462 Distinction: Undo vs. Struggle
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Struggle is an indicator that something is off, ill-timed, poorly prepared, or beyond an obvious solution. When struggle rears its head pause and re-look at the situation. Most people won’t do that. They confront struggle with renewed […]
S:1461 Great Question: Support?
(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “Do I have a support systemor do I have to support a system?” Coaching Point: A support system – at least an effective one – is a multi-faceted structure. Multiple parts of a whole, each acting for a different purpose. That’s what makes it a […]
S:1457 Distinction: Music vs. Notes
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) A gifted teacher can have an outsized effect. We were a bunch of Junior High School band members, surely no more than average, but he led us to win the citywide (of Dallas, not exactly a burg) […]
S:1453 Distinction: Authentic vs. Credible
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) John le Carré, in talking about his book ‘The Spy Who Came In From The Cold’ made the point that, while few believed him since he had worked for a while in the British secret service, the […]
S:1448 Distinction: Bonds vs. Shackles
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Recently dealing with a couple of issues in my life I discovered I had these two conflated. I held the thought that having bonds was the same as being shackled. Turns out not so. Shackled is what […]
S:1443 Distinction: Differentiation vs. Separation
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Differentiation is a life skill. Seeing differentiation adds to the richness of life experiences. The subtle effect of a shade of paint in the painting, of a bit of spice in the recipe, a half-note in the […]
S:1438 Distinction: Resilient vs. Fragile
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Resilience is good. Bend with the wind but don’t break. Withstand pressure then return to form. Resilience has its place. Unless you want to change. To return to what was so before (to be resilient) is to […]
S:1432 Distinction: Ambition vs. Entitlement
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This Distinction has been succinctly defined by this author better than I could write it, thus here is his quote:“Ambition is when you expect yourself to close the gap between what you have and what you want.Entitlement […]
S:1430 Distinction: Know vs. Explain
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Some things in life simply can’t be explained. There is no vocabulary for them. But you Know, you get it. You don’t need a logical linear explanation. The power of a thunderstorm experienced. Especially if you’re in […]
S:1424 Distinction: Fulfillment vs. Success
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Fulfillment. To feel fulfilled is a wondrous state of being. Have you ever been really fulfilled? I mean for more than a few moments then rushing on to your next thing. Sometimes when success occurs it is […]
