S:1338 Distinction: Confident vs. Arrogant (#2)

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Since writing this same Distinction many years ago [S:0478] an additional important attribute has been observed – the distinction has a binary nature. By binary I mean you are either in one mode or the other; there…Continue Reading →

S:1330 Distinction: Showing Up Authentically vs. Auditioning

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The genesis of this Distinction was a sentence uttered years ago about dating. “No one just goes on a date, they audition.” Meaning they were playing a part they think the other person wants to see. Or…Continue Reading →

S:1328 Distinction: Living With The Past vs. Living In The Past

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This Distinction emerged, like many S3MC topics, from recent experience. In this case I’ve had a major change in my life which points out the difference in the two sides of this distinction. Living in the past…Continue Reading →

S:1322 Distinction: Are vs. Supposed To Be

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The answer to the question ‘Who are you?’ is … who you are. Hold on, don’t roll your eyes just yet. Most people have a desire to be accepted, therefore answering the ‘who are you’ question with…Continue Reading →

S:1312 Distinction: Support vs. Interfere

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) What are some prime differences which make this Distinction? Intent and attachment. If someone seeks your assistance and you choose to engage, you are probably supporting. Or if you initiate an offer of assistance and they agree,…Continue Reading →

S:1307 Distinction: Acceptance vs. Resignation

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The words Acceptance and Resignation are frequently conflated. Incorrectly so, for they have quite different meanings and energies. Acceptance is about what-is-so, right here, right now without interpretation. When you experience acceptance you are standing in your…Continue Reading →

S:1305 Distinction: Gratitude vs. Guilt

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Reading several books recently about wealth – its attributes, myths, and meaning – one of the recurring themes was guilt. Most often mentioned as an emotion experienced by people who had ascended to wealth from middle- or…Continue Reading →

S:1299 Distinction: Tired vs. Drained

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) A fundamental part of being coached is to take care of yourself. Good care of yourself. The idea is that it’s hard to be available for others when your vessel is depleted. Yes, there are people who…Continue Reading →

S:1296 Distinction: Off Balance vs. Unbalanced

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This Distinction could seem a little muddy in meaning. It is subtle and you may even substitute different language to describe the underlying message. When you are off balance you know it, you feel it, and you…Continue Reading →

S:1286 Distinction: Falling Away vs. Falling Apart

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Change. It is continuous, unrelenting, natural, necessary, and beyond the control of any individual, with two basic ways for dealing with it. One is to react and see change as a falling apart. Coming unglued. Unwound. Disintegrating.…Continue Reading →

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