S:1355 Great Question: Amazes?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What amazes me?” Coaching Point: Children spend much of their time amazed. That’s because each day can be an introduction to something new, interesting, wonderful. For them there is a continual unfoldment of something they haven’t seen before, had no idea existed, and, well, amazes…Continue Reading →

S:1354 Principle: Peril

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) Treat people poorly at your peril. Coaching Point: You can treat others poorly if you want, but what is the price? Copyright 2021 Steve Straus. All rights reserved.Continue Reading →

S:1351 Distinction: Stop-Doings vs. To-Dos

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) When overwhelmed by more and more things to do most people throw up their hands and quit in frustration. What if you did part of that intentionally? What if you had your to-do list, sure, but also…Continue Reading →

S:1347 Distinction: Beacon vs. Flashlight

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Driving in the early morning dark there was a flash of light reflected off low clouds. When it repeated at consistent intervals it revealed as the rotating light from the beacon at a distant airport. [Most Distinctions…Continue Reading →

S:1338 Distinction: Confident vs. Arrogant (#2)

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Since writing this same Distinction many years ago [S:0478] an additional important attribute has been observed – the distinction has a binary nature. By binary I mean you are either in one mode or the other; there…Continue Reading →

S:1330 Distinction: Showing Up Authentically vs. Auditioning

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The genesis of this Distinction was a sentence uttered years ago about dating. “No one just goes on a date, they audition.” Meaning they were playing a part they think the other person wants to see. Or…Continue Reading →

S:1328 Distinction: Living With The Past vs. Living In The Past

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This Distinction emerged, like many S3MC topics, from recent experience. In this case I’ve had a major change in my life which points out the difference in the two sides of this distinction. Living in the past…Continue Reading →

S:1322 Distinction: Are vs. Supposed To Be

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The answer to the question ‘Who are you?’ is … who you are. Hold on, don’t roll your eyes just yet. Most people have a desire to be accepted, therefore answering the ‘who are you’ question with…Continue Reading →

S:1312 Distinction: Support vs. Interfere

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) What are some prime differences which make this Distinction? Intent and attachment. If someone seeks your assistance and you choose to engage, you are probably supporting. Or if you initiate an offer of assistance and they agree,…Continue Reading →

S:1307 Distinction: Acceptance vs. Resignation

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The words Acceptance and Resignation are frequently conflated. Incorrectly so, for they have quite different meanings and energies. Acceptance is about what-is-so, right here, right now without interpretation. When you experience acceptance you are standing in your…Continue Reading →

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