S:1420 Great Question: How Much Is Enough?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “How much is enough?” Coaching Point: Imagine hearing this question spoken with a disparaging tone. Some negative judging implied. That’s frequently the case whether it is spoken to us or by us to ourselves! Maybe it’s a conversation about deserving. Or belief in a perceived […]

S:1411 Great Question: What Keeps Me From Being Me?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What,in me,keeps mefrom being who I want to be?” Coaching Point: Answers to this Great Question are best discerned by breaking it into parts. First, start at the end – who do you want to be? Have you defined it? Have you clarified why you […]

S:1402 Great Question: Turning Points?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What have been some of the important turning points in my life?” Coaching Point: Important turning points cause change. In directions, opportunities, completions, ease, difficulty, in velocity, relationships, wealth. A turning point is such because of the noticeable change it prompts. Most ordinary events don’t. […]

S:1396 Great Question: Why Not?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “Why not?” Coaching Point: So often we let the littlest obstacle stop our progress. The slightest push-back. A subtle frowning disagreement. Our gut or head says go but we stop at no. Ideas have to be sold. Progress doesn’t occur in solitude. Awaking others to […]

S:1391 Great Question: Misunderstood?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “How am I being misunderstood?” Coaching Point: This is a sneaky question because being misunderstood is almost always about the sender not the receiver. If you notice people don’t seem to be understanding what you’re saying, look inward. An old piece of wisdom says, “The […]

S:1383 Great Question: Past and Fear?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What from my past am I projecting to the future as a fear?” Coaching Point: It’s called Projection. It’s when we assume what we imagine for the future is what will happen. This is true whether we are conscious of our thoughts about the future […]

S:1382 Great Question: Of?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What am I Of?” Coaching Point: What does it mean to be Of? We know what it’s like to be separate-from, outside-of, opposed-to. Feeling like ‘they’ know something we don’t. This feeling outside-of is a stage all people go through, certainly during our teenage years. […]

S:1377 Great Question: Delights?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What delights me most?” Coaching Point: Delights is a lovely word. It’s difficult to have heavy emotions when you say the word. Try it. Notice that ‘delights’ is, well, a delightful word. So what’s the point of bringing it up? The simple daily grind of […]

S:1373 Great Question: Memories?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What memories do I recall most?” Coaching Point: A common theme in the S3MC portfolio is an encouragement to live in the present. A Be-Here-Now sort of focus. The past, and the future, have their place in a life well lived, but you want to […]

S:1371 Great Question: Let Go?

(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “Can I just let go and follow the invisible into the unknown?” Coaching Point: Letting go is hard. And easy. To let go means not being in control. For some that’s too scary to even contemplate. Imagining they have their hand on the tiller of […]