S:1231 Distinction: Quarrel vs. Fight
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) When we quarrel each tries to appeal to the other with logic, facts, reason, and context. Quarreling is a useful way to learn and grow for each person. A ridged, hidebound, unmoving position can be softened by…Continue Reading →
S:1230 Principle: Doing
(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) It’s in the doing that you learn. Coaching Point: Reading about it is useful. Thinking about it is fine. Talking about it can be helpful. But it’s in the doing that you learn. What are you doing about it?…Continue Reading →
S:1229 Quote: Genuine
(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “There is something in every one of you that waits and listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself. It is the only true guide you will ever have. And if you cannot hear it, you will all of your life spend your days on the…Continue Reading →
S:1228 Principle: Perspective
(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) Perspective is everything. Perspective provides the context necessary to understand content. An example of perspective: Fishing can be fun.Digging a tunnel can be work. Unless you are a worm. Different perspective; different context; different meaning. Coaching Point: The need…Continue Reading →
S:1227 Great Question: Fear To Hear?
(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What do I fear to hear?” (Or see?) (Or experience?) Coaching Point: This S3MC surfaced when I recently realized I was avoiding having a necessary, but probably unpleasant, conversation. As I projected the thought of it onto the future the imagined emotional energy felt really…Continue Reading →
S:1226 Quote: Consistency
(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “All fields of human knowledge change over time, and even the reporting of history itself is subject to revision based on new discoveries and methodologies. Thus, all beliefs and information are tentative in that even if the facts don’t change, their significance or meaning is subject to…Continue Reading →
S:1225 Principle: Think
(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) Don’t believe everything you think. You think a lot. A nearly continuous stream of thoughts. It’s useful to think. But to have unexamined thoughts, unexamined beliefs, not so much. A belief is a thought you’ve thought a lot. It’s…Continue Reading →
S:1224 Distinction: Get Over It vs. Cover It Over
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) We have a conditioned response to avoid pain, or at least minimize it. This can cause us to mask it, Cover It Over with something more pleasant. The problem with the ‘cover up’ job is that the…Continue Reading →
S:1223 Principle: Measure
(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) Never measure yourself by what others can do. Only by what you can do. Sure, be inspired by what someone else can do or has done. Use that inspiration to motivate yourself. Measuring/comparing relative to them is something else.…Continue Reading →
S:1222 Distinction: Questions vs. Answers
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) One might not immediately think that Questions and Answers would be poles of a Distinction. But they are and they are heavily influenced by…Sherlock Holmes. [Yes, I know he is a fictional character of Arthur Conan Doyle,…Continue Reading →