S:1279 Personal Need: To Be In Control
(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.) We want our leaders to lead – in the classroom, the outdoor adventure group, the company, the government unit, wherever. Some people are called to lead and are therefore in control in a…Continue Reading →
S:1278 Quote: Thoughts
(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “So much of any outcome is predetermined by how you think and speak about yourself and events.” and . . . “Although the old narrative was ‘written’ in childhood, it’s not written in stone.” John Sharp M.D. “What thought has done, thought can undo. The mental patterns…Continue Reading →
S:1277 Great Question: Character?
(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What has recently been revealed about my character?” Coaching Point: The classic view is, “adversity builds character.” A deeper look shows that adversity reveals character. Stress shows what’s already there and sometimes a revelation can evoke an ‘Ouch!’ because what’s revealed doesn’t look so good.…Continue Reading →
S:1276 Distinction: Excitement vs. Anxiety
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The only real difference between excitement and anxiety is a willingness to let go of fear. Sometimes we need help with that, but it is an ‘inside’ job. Fear lives in us. Handle the fear and space…Continue Reading →
S:1275 Principle: Revert to the Mean
(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) You learned about the mean in middle school math class. You may have even made a wordplay around ‘meanness’ thinking yourself to be quite clever. The mean is the description of what all variables return to. (By the laws…Continue Reading →
S:1274 Quote: Watchers
(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “We have a responsibility to stand watch over one another, we are watchers, all of us, watchers, guarding against the darkness. . . . we’re all needed.” Dean Koontz Coaching Point: Do you know how to be a watcher? Copyright 2020 Steve Straus. All rights reserved.Continue Reading →
S:1273 Distinction: Prepared vs. Panicked
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Both words, prepared and panicked, are set while visiting the future. The future – unknown, mysterious, shadowy – is at its core uncertain. In that, prepared and panicked are similar. It’s their response to the uncertain future…Continue Reading →
S:1272 Great Fear: Of Being A Victim
(Great fears are barriers to experiencing your real life.) [There are countless fears, yet few are of the level of the Great Fears. A Great Fear is noted by its commonness and its effect; it shows up in a large part of society and can have a numbing effect on one’s happiness.] There is no…Continue Reading →
S:1271 Principle: Comfort Zone
(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) Rather than trying to grow by pushing yourself out of your comfort zone (common advice) how about simply expanding your comfort zone? There are many ways. Give up the push. That may be hard for some because their conditioning…Continue Reading →
S:1270 Quote: Fight
(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “I don’t have to attend every fight I’m invited to.” A Course in Miracles Coaching Point: I laughed out loud when I first read this. Because I realized I had been susceptible to, shall we say, energetic engagement in debates which hadn’t add any real value to…Continue Reading →