S:1196 Great Question: Remembered?
(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “How do I want to be remembered?” Coaching Point: Or do you even care to be remembered? If it’s not important to you, so be it; it’s your life and your choice. If, on the other hand, you would like to be remembered…Continue Reading →
S:1195 Great Question: Interest?
(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What if I looked at everything with open-ended interest?” Coaching Point: Instead of anger. Or judging, ‘justified’ resentment, condemnation, recoil, horror, fear, dismay, revulsion, righteousness, or guilt. Or even instead of longing, desire, pride, wanting, or wistfulness. What if you let go of…Continue Reading →
S:1194 Distinction: Progress vs. Pedals
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Imagine a bicycle. If you only look down at the pedals you can believe you are only moving in circles. Busy, but no progress. The view out over the handlebars is different. You see that the…Continue Reading →
S:1193 Principle: A Good Day
(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) A client recently mentioned that a good day for him had three components: > Upon awakening, he felt inspired. > Throughout the day, he felt safe. > At the end of the day, he felt fulfilled. As I…Continue Reading →
S:1192 Principle: Signposts and Goalposts
(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker. Signposts and goalposts are each valid and useful, but they’re different and have different uses. A goalpost signifies an ending. You may or may not reach a goal. You may or may not be attached to achieving a…Continue Reading →
S:1191 Great Question: Peace?
(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “Am I moving at the speed of peace?” Coaching Point: The “speed of peace” is when you are moving at exactly the speed which offers no resistance. Move too fast, you’re trying to force an outcome; never a good idea. Forcing outcomes is…Continue Reading →
S:1190 Distinction: Pain vs. Suffering
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Pain is a sensation. Suffering is an emotional reaction to pain. Of course you want to lessen or eliminate the pain sensation. Maybe you can’t stop it immediately, the condition is what it is. The pain…Continue Reading →
S:1189 Distinction: To Age vs. Be Old
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This Distinction zeroes in on attitude rather than years. Sure, you will age, but old is a function of more than the calendar. I got to see this up close when a long-time friend started ‘getting…Continue Reading →
S:1188 Quote: Choosing to Be Happy
(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “There comes a time in your life when you walk away from all the drama and the people who create it. You surround yourself with people who help you laugh. Forget the bad. Focus on the good. Love the people who treat you well and let…Continue Reading →
S:1187 Principle: Self-Awareness
(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) As I sat down to write this S3MC I started, as usual, with a search of today’s topic in the database of past issues to see what I had already written related to it. (The database is bigger…Continue Reading →