S:1185 Distinction: Discern vs. Judge
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) One of the most useful skills one can develop is discernment. The skill takes desire – you must want it. It takes awareness – you must be able to feel. And it takes self-esteem – you…Continue Reading →
S:1184 Quote: Wisdom
(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “Wisdom is the reward for a lifetime of listening…when you’d have preferred to talk.” D.J. Kaufman. Coaching Point: Why oh why is it sometimes so hard to listen? Oh, I know, it’s because I’m so smart and know so much! Yeah, that’s it. Really? Wouldn’t…Continue Reading →
S:1183 Distinction: Why vs. Should
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Imagine (or remember) someone lecturing you, perhaps while shaking their finger at you, and telling what you should do, should have done, shouldn’t do, or shouldn’t have done. What kind of feelings does that image evoke…Continue Reading →
S:1182 Attainment: Gotten
(Attainments are levels of growth along a path of development.) Level 1 – Ignored. Unseen. Not noticed. Transparent. Feeling separate-from. Possibly alone and may be lonely. Level 2 – Recognized. Beginning to be noticed, maybe even included. You can imagine you are becoming part-of. Level 3 – Heard. Others listen to what you have…Continue Reading →
S:1181 Principle: Abundant
(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) A sentence in a book caught my attention recently: “Life lies open to me, rich, full and abundant.” What hit me was how different people might respond differently to it. Some might think, “Yes, that’s true for me”…Continue Reading →
S:1180 Great Question: Probable?
(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.) “What do I need to do to change a possible into a probable?” Coaching Point: Lots of outcomes are possible. That’s the nature of the universe; it’s a great big wonderful smorgasbord of possibilities. Out of all the possibilities only a few will…Continue Reading →
S:1179 Distinction: Mellow Drama vs. Melodrama
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Mellow Drama = Interesting characters, engaging situations, clever dialog, problems solved, satisfying conclusion, curtain closes, lights go up, everybody goes home pleased. Melodrama = Not the above. Coaching Point: And your choice is? Copyright…Continue Reading →
S:1178 Great Fear: Of Making a Mistake
(Great fears are barriers to experiencing your real life.) [There are countless fears, yet few are of the level of the Great Fears. A Great Fear is noted by its commonness and its effect; it shows up in a large part of society and can have a numbing effect on one’s happiness.] “What might…Continue Reading →
S:1177 Quote: Enthusiasm
(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.) “The secret of genius is to carry the spirit of the child into old age, which means never losing your enthusiasm.” Aldous Huxley Coaching Point: That’s why some people are afraid to retire, they think they will lose their enthusiasm for life. Enthusiasm is self-imposed,…Continue Reading →
S:1176 Principle: Breakthroughs
(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.) Many people enjoy solving crossword puzzles. Occasionally they run into one which seems unsolvable. They try and try and try, but can’t get any of the words. Then one little 3-letter word falls into place. It causes another…Continue Reading →