(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)


When you elevate someone — or, more correctly, assist them to elevate themselves — you are supporting them to live their life at a higher level of awareness, understanding and behavior. A person who is elevated is a person who has grown. It is permanent. Usually, it’s pretty easy.

When you carry someone, you’re doing the work and they don’t grow. They don’t have to; they’ve got you!

Another benefit of assisting people to elevate is because it’s fun for you. You will enjoy the process because you get to be a part of someone’s growth at no cost to you. Carrying costs you, elevating pays you both.


Coaching Point: Who are you carrying?


Copyright 1998 Steve Straus. All rights reserved.