S:0163 Distinction: Evolve vs. Revolve

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)


Have you ever felt that you were cleaning up the same mess or handling the same problem you’ve handled before? Sure, nearly everybody has. That is one of the indications of revolving — the same stuff just keeps showing up.

Some people like to revolve because they get to deal with familiar (read: comfortable) issues, they know what to do about them (which gives them a sense of control over their lives), and they may even get juice from the drama of having their life be about problems.

When you evolve you actually grow from your experiences. You find yourself getting smarter or wiser — and you enjoy it.

You know you are evolving when you look at a familiar situation in a new way; when you refuse to jump into a problem and, instead, hand it to it’s rightful owner for them to deal with; when the situations presented to you start to look like fun things that you want to learn from rather than problems to be solved; and when you start responding to what comes up without even thinking about it, and you’re right!


Coaching Point: Where is one area in which you see you have already evolved?


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