(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)

Remember the last time you really felt confident about something. Attributes of your confidence were strength, ease, calmness, and clarity. You were not worried.

Now picture someone who is arrogant. Do they exhibit edginess and self-importance? Are they judgmental, maybe even belligerent? Why do you think that is?

Arrogance comes from a place of powerlessness, there is a need to win. At some level an arrogant person is not sure of his or her point of view and tries to cover that up through bluster and contempt. Arrogance is off-putting.

When you’ve done your homework, are clear about the facts, and have tested out your ideas with others, you naturally feel confident. You come from a place of strength. Confidence is attractive.

Copyright 2004 Steve Straus. All rights reserved.