(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)


This distinction may seem like a stretch since the definition of feral mainly applies to animals, specifically animals that live or grow in the wild after having been domestically raised or acclimated. A feral animal acts, and once again is, untamed and savage. At core, feral is self-serving survival behavior.

Contrast that with someone who is focused. Focused behavior is intent, maybe even intense, unbothered by distractions, and clear about what is to be accomplished. A focused person tends to get things done.

But a focused person has the space for, and recognizes, others. He or she is not on a solo, selfish journey. One can be focused and still gracious. Focused and inclusive. Focused and a joy to be around.

Focused can be attractive energy that people want to join. Feral energy is repelling.


Coaching Point: Do you now see the behavior of someone in your life from a different perspective?


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