S:0588 Principle: Resentment

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.)

 

Just because you resent someone doesn’t mean they’re going to change.

Think about it. Have you ever felt resentment toward someone? How did you feel? Righteous? Judgemental? Angry? There’s probably not any emotion related to resentment which feels good to you.

Since most people you have resented didn’t even know you felt that way — think about the driver on the freeway who just cut dangerously close to you — how do you think your resentment felt to them? It felt like nothing! That’s right, they didn’t pay any price for your feelings of resentment. You did.

As a result, they also didn’t change. If you want someone to change, talk to them. Discuss how you feel. Find out what’s going on with them. Tell them what you want. Seek resolution. Connect.

Carrying resentment only costs you.

 

Coaching Point: Are you ready to quit paying the price of resentment?

 

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