S:0644 Distinction: And vs. Or

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)


So much of the time we find ourselves choosing between two outcomes. “If I’m to have that, I’ve got to give up having this.” This propensity to assume Or limits you.

For a real breakthrough start asking yourself, “How can I have this And that?” An answer may not come to you immediately — after all, you’ve lived in Or for a long time — but just by being in the And question you open up to possibilities that are not present when you assume Or.

Get someone to help you shift to And thinking. In fact, make a game of it with them and play with ideas for each of you to come up with And possibilities for the other.

The more you practice And, the easier you will find new, creative, powerful answers.


Coaching Point: What is one Or you’re stuck on now?


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