(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)
All change is accompanied by a sense of loss, at least temporarily, because what was so before is no longer so, thus something feels lost. Live with the new for a while and the sense of loss dissipates.
However, there is another side of change which feels quite different than loss. Many of the changes you make will be accompanied by a feeling of liberation. There is excitement, freedom, and new possibility when you are liberated.
Have you ever been fired? (From a job or a relationship!) It probably didn’t seem wonderful at the time, but did it turn out to be a great new start?
Have you ever had a business which “failed?” [There is no failure, only feedback, the subject of a different S3MC.] Did that liberate you to discover something else even better for you?
When a change occurs go ahead and fully feel the loss.
Then look for the liberation. It’s in there.
Coaching Point: Where have you experienced liberation?
Copyright 2009 Steve Straus. All rights reserved.
