(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)


At first glance this Distinction may seem obvious and, at the macro level, it is. The power of it lies at a deeper and more subtle level.

When you are drawn to something (a person, a place, a thing, an activity, or an idea) the energy is a beckoning one. You’re interested, perhaps even eager, at the very least, curious. It doesn’t take full-on passion to be drawn, but it does include a willing participation by you.

Contrast that with being dragged to something. You may do it with a smile, your outward demeanor may appear to be agreeing, but something about the transaction is ‘off’ for you.

The difference is in the source of the energy.

When you are drawn, the source is in you.

When dragged, the source is external.

[It’s beyond the scope of this Distinction to address why you would ever willingly let yourself be dragged. A ‘should.’ An ‘I have to.’ An ‘I don’t want to upset someone.’ You may want to list some of your reasons….and then ‘be’ with each reason until you get some clarity. Dragged is pretty expensive.]


Coaching Point: When you catch yourself being dragged, can you find something about it which will allow you to shift to becoming drawn?


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