(Great fears are barriers to experiencing your real life.)


It’s about believing you have something to hide. Believing you have deficiencies. The possible shame you could experience. It’s about “what would they think?”

Notice the pattern. This whole fear is from your inner dialogue, stories you made up. Or were made up for you. (Perhaps to control you. Shame, shame, shame.)

The questions to ask yourself, then, are these, ‘What do I fear about being found out.’ (Quantify it. Name it.) and, ‘What can I do about it?’ (Clean something up? Let something go? Heal something? Finish something? Start something?)

The Fear of Being Found Out is simply a call to action. When you find yourself surrendering to this fear use the feeling as an indicator, like you would a blinking light on the dashboard of your car warning, “Low oil pressure!” When you fear being found out, instead of running from it, take an action.

Living with this fear is way too expensive. And you’ll probably find out most of what you fear exists only in your imagination, ‘they’ really don’t care!


Coaching Point: Or maybe you DO have some ‘skeletons-in-the-closet’ you’re not proud of. Pick one and handle it (get help, if you need to). Whatever the emotional cost, what might the payoff be for you? Freedom from fearing being found out?


Copyright 2011 Steve Straus. All rights reserved.