S:0851 Principle: Letting Go of Resentment

(Principles are basic truths that, when applied, cause success to come to you easier and quicker.)


What an experience resentment is. A roller coaster ride of emotions. A depletion of energy. An internal journey to….where?

We’re all familiar with anger. It’s loud, clear, and easily felt. Getting on top of, and handling, anger is a well-known life improver. Resentment is subtler than anger and its presence is frequently overlooked.

The essence of resentment is that it is totally an ‘inside job.’ No matter what happens on the outside — what ‘they’ do — when you are experiencing resentment it is by your own hand. This may seem a harsh assessment to you, but think about it for a moment.

Feeling resentment means you are sitting in judgement, tapping into your deepest internal programming about what you think is right and wrong, and are choosing (sure, it’s unconscious, but its a choice nonetheless) to experience a physical and emotional reaction. The cost of the feeling of resentment is thus totally borne by you. The outer world changes not at all.

The good news is that when you become conscious of experiencing resentment you become at choice as to whether you want to continue to pay the price. Simple awareness can lead to you letting go of resentment. It serves no useful purpose to keep it.


Coaching Point: Do you resent hearing this?


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