(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)


Regulate has two very different uses. The popular use has come to mean to provide regulations. That is, to describe controls. Requirements. Punishments. Limitations. This use of the word has an implied external-ness, an I-will-regulate-you sort of thing.

The original use of regulate means – to make regular. Normalize. Eliminate blockages and obstructions. Get in the flow. This use of the word implies a self-awareness and self-responsibility.

The media tends to show people who are yelling about someone else doing ‘wrong’ (as they define wrong) and want those miscreants regulated.

My experience as a Coach shows that people who focus their energy on determining what is right and appropriate for their own journey discover something important — doing ‘wrong’ is detrimental to it!

I am not suggesting that you drive on whichever side of the road you want. That you have no regard for the effect you’re having on others.

I am suggesting that when you pay attention to what works really well for you, and regulate yourself, the need for regulations fades. Everyone benefits.


Coaching Point: What did your Momma teach you? To regulate yourself is not some radical new thought for you, is it?


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