(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)


When you are entangled you can get untied and once again become free. It may take effort and time, but you can. Picture a cartoon fisherman entangled in his fishing line.

Consumed is a different matter. Far more than simply entangled, you’ve merged with the situation. Your identity, energy, and focus have given over to it. Beyond trapped, you have become absorbed.

The purpose of looking at this Distinction is because it’s easy to mistake entangled for consumed. At a casual level, they feel similar. What to do?

Any time you notice you’re feeling what’s-the-use?, I’m powerless, or like a victim, ask yourself if you are willing to continue in this state. If you are, relax into it and learn whatever there is for you to learn. If not, start to imagine how you would rather for things to be and notice that you will almost immediately start to see ways to unravel your entanglement.

Entanglements occur in relationships, jobs, cash flow, organizations, even in your fun or hobby activities. You don’t have to stay entangled.


Coaching Point: Are you in any entanglements right now?


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