(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)


Have you ever felt mystified? Some people like the feeling because it evokes a sense of wonder, curiosity, and eagerness. Sort of a “Wow, what’s that about?” experience. Curiosity is a powerful and healthy motivator in the human toolkit. Children live in the wonder and delight of uncertainty all the time.

Other people don’t enjoy the feeling of mystified because they don’t like the not-knowing which accompanies it. They may move from mystified straight into worried.

Worried, it has been observed, is the projection of a possible negative outcome onto the future. You have a thought about a future event, notice something about it which could happen that would be undesirable, and experience the feelings associated with that negative outcome. Amazing! You feel bothered in the Now over something that hasn’t even happened yet. That’s the essence of projecting. That’s the essence of feeling worried.

When you find yourself mystified, enjoy it, look for data, wait for clarity, notice what emerges.

When you find yourself worried, use the same approach.


Coaching Point: Do you see that mystified will guide you, while worried will block you?


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