(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)


It’s so easy to want to be right. Right feels satisfying, secure, noble even. Feeling “large and in charge!” I’m right, I’m so right.

But what is “right”? Isn’t right a perspective, a vantage point, relative? No, you may say, right is right because it’s the truth, I know the truth, therefore I’m right.

Really? Have you had the experience of knowing something to be right, then later, with more evidence and living, discovered your view has changed and what was so clearly right earlier now doesn’t look so right? I’ve never met a person who hasn’t had this happen sometime in their life.

It doesn’t mean that before you were wrong and now you’re right. It means that before you had one perspective and now you have a different one, that’s all. You’ve had more experience, learned, and grown.

The opportunity presented by this Distinction is to practice becoming aware of what is really so and as your awareness expands find that your need to be right fades.

You will still be right. It just won’t have you in its grip so much.


Coaching Point: Right?


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