(Quotes are capsules of information, reinforcement or enlightenment.)
“We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done.”
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Coaching Point: I generally love Longfellow’s thoughts and observations on the human condition, but this one is in conflict with the Coaching mindset. What is wrong with this quote?
Both sides of the quote are about judging, judging ourselves and judging others. Being judgmental is not useful. Observant? Sure. Aware? Of course. Assuming, making up stories, and being attached to outcomes lead to the opportunity to judge.
Can you look at your “stuff” without judging it? Perhaps the bigger question is can you look at other people’s stuff without judging them?
What would your life be like if you simply spent your time being aware, taking action based on what you see, and letting go of wasting your energy playing the judgment game?
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