S:1021 Distinction: What You Have vs. What You Don’t Have – Steve's 3

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)

This Distinction has a different approach than most. Usually they point out subtle, yet meaningful, differences between two words or terms. With this one the difference between What You Have and What You Don’t Have appears to be non-subtle. However, its impact is in how each affect you.

What You Have is comprised of a variety of resources including things, time, plans, capabilities, people, and so forth.

What You Don’t Have can be about those same resources.

The difference is in where you place your attention and its emotional impact. Possible or impossible? Steps to take or barriers holding you back. “I can” or “I can’t.” “What’s next” or “Woe is me.”

Of course it is always useful to look at what you don’t have in order to develop an approach to get what you want. You just don’t want to set up camp there and let what you don’t have keep you from getting into action toward what you want.

Coaching Point: Where do you normally place your attention?

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