S:1029 Great Fear: Of Loneliness

(Great fears are barriers to experiencing your real life.)


Loneliness is not the same as being alone. One can be alone and quite content. For instance, introverts need alone time to recharge their batteries. That’s healthy behavior for them.

Loneliness is different. It is feeling separate-from, disconnected, isolated. From others. From events. From possibilities. Perhaps even from life itself.

Fearing the pain of loneliness can lead to costly compensating behaviors to try to avoid or mitigate the loneliness. These compensating behaviors don’t solve it. They feed it.

The first step to resolving this Great Fear is to acknowledge its presence. Thinking that you ‘shouldn’t’ feel lonely is not useful.

Then feel into it rather than running from or trying to mask it. When you expose the core reason(s) for your loneliness the path to its resolution will become clear.

Then you will be free from this fear.


Coaching Point: Have you experienced loneliness?


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