(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete, or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.)

The Need For Protection is somewhat as described in Maslow’s Hierarchy but is subtly different and in many ways more pervasive. His refers to basic physiological needs such as for shelter and safety. The Need For Protection creates walls of thoughts and emotions.

Even the strongest and toughest of us have tender spots. Buttons. When touched they can trigger an almost instantaneous reaction, usually unpleasant.

That’s what we need the protection from, the hurt. So a wall gets built; then strengthened. A different hurt, another wall. Whether it’s protection from being judged, criticized, or thought ill of. Protection from financial trouble or a receding relationship. Maybe even protection from the changing face in the morning mirror!

Building protection is endless and gets more expensive as life unfolds. Instead, notice when you feel this Need and look at what seems to need protecting. Handle the underlying issue and the Need vaporizes.

Not only will this give you back the energy used in maintaining the protective wall it gives a palpable sense of increased freedom. Freedom to be who you really are without worrying about what might happen.

Coaching Point: Noticed any Need For Protection buttons lately?

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