(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)
There are times when forcing is appropriate. Observing the common occurrence of the use of force one could believe it’s the only way to accomplish results. But it’s not an enlightened way.
Forcing can result in false starts, great effort, blind alleys, dead ends, and do-overs. Forcing frequently occurs because of a lack of awareness. The more aware one is of resources, options, and alternative approaches the less forcing is called for.
Highly successful people – that is, people who have consistently enjoyed excellent outcomes over long periods – will tell you they tend to study their outcomes before plunging into action. They have a clear understanding of what they want to accomplish. And why they want it. Both what and why.
They tend to see if similar outcomes have been accomplished by others. They look for resources to assist them. They focus their energy on their strengths rather than weaknesses.
In other words, the journey to their outcome is a process of assisting in the unfoldment of the desired outcome rather than forcing it to occur.
Coaching Point: What is unfolding for you right now which is an excellent example?
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