(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)

Resilience is good. Bend with the wind but don’t break. Withstand pressure then return to form. Resilience has its place. Unless you want to change.

To return to what was so before (to be resilient) is to … not change. Change is breakage. Good breakage, yes, desired breakage, but still breakage.

So, fragile, the second part of this Distinction, by form presented as the ‘weaker’ or ‘lesser’ side, may become the desired side when you want to change.

What if you allowed yourself to be fragile at the point of change? Even in chaos there is order, purpose and meaning. Looking back at a previous time of chaos reveals useful change emerged from it.

Choosing when to be resilient and when to allow breakage is a life skill. Get help with this.

Coaching Point: Recall a change you resisted, then breakage occurred, and later you were glad about the change?

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