(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete, or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.)

Early in conversations about Needs – what they are, what they cost, how they can be easily resolved – people can become somewhat uncomfortable with the topic. It is because they readily see they have some Needs and initially think they ‘shouldn’t.’ They think Needs are bad. Thus having Needs is bad. “I have Needs thus I am …”

Untrue. You didn’t cause any of the Needs you have. They are gifts from others! (A topic for another time.)

Becoming aware of your Needs; seeing their cost and inefficiency; learning how easy it is to resolve them; permanently. That should be your focus. It is a significant path to more freedom.

So instead of needing to appear to not have Needs look at them head-on and let go of thinking that Needs are bad. See them as just what-is-so. Something to be aware of and, if appropriate, resolved. Never to have their costly effect again.

[Click here to see a list of common Needs.]

Coaching Point: So you’ve got Needs? So what?

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