(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)


Wanting is being drawn toward a desirable outcome. It includes enjoying the outcome should it occur. And maybe enjoying the unfoldment to the outcome. Wanting is about enjoyment. Full stop.

On the other hand Needing evokes unenjoyable feelings the whole time the need is not being met. Then, once met, only briefly enjoying the absence of the need. The discomfort of an unmet need causes a drivenness.

A Wanting has no cost when not being met. It has no downside, only the possibility of upside.

Needing is feeling less-than where Now is somehow not okay.

Wanting is anticipating a desired outcome, but Now is just fine.

We’re at choice all day every day whether we are Drawn toward outcomes we Want or Driven to accomplish Needs that need filling.

Life gets easier when we make the shift.

See also S:0291. And S:1235a.


Coaching Point: What do you want, really want?


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