(An unmet Need causes us to feel empty, incomplete or less than whole. Fulfilling a Need gives us freedom to be ourselves.)


“Drama Queen” is an old label people have used to identify certain traits in others. (Of course there are also “Drama Kings”, the label transcends gender.)

So what are the characteristics of someone who needs to have drama in their life?

They frequently run late for events and then arrive with a flourish. They seem to have more than their share of problems. They may complain at lot. Generally they are at the center of noise.

The need for drama may have been caused by any number of things from a person’s past. The point here is to notice the cost of getting the need met. If there were no manufactured drama in your life, the energy used to create drama is available for creating what you really want. The effect of drama is rarely to advance your life; you end up tired but in the same place. Drama is also off-putting to others. A calmer, more confident approach is attractive.

Is the recommendation here to never get excited? No. It’s to recognize the difference between drama and excitement, enthusiasm, joy, or eagerness.

Get the need healed and watch how others notice you even more.


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