(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)
There are two uses of the word “expectation” in the world of coaching and personal development and, without a clear definition of which is being used, can cause confusion.
The first use is to describe a knowing. When there is no question; when you are certain to the point of not even having to think about it; when you know that you know that you know; that’s one type of expectation.
An example of this energy of expectation is when you turn on a light — you turn the switch and expect the light to come on, no thought, and no surprise when the light lights. In fact, surprise comes on the rare occasion when the light doesn’t come on.
You can effectively use this expectation in goal setting, visualization, and attraction. Get clear on what you want, picture it, and release it to surely show up. You don’t need to think about it, just expect it.
The other use of expectation is a lot less useful for you. This is the expectation related to attachment. If you feel something must happen a certain way in order for you to be okay, then that is called being attached to an outcome. This type of expectation is a major cause of suffering.
Other energies mingled with this are wishing, hoping, needing, fearing, and grasping. When this type of expectation is present, something else is going on.
Coaching Point: What are examples of each type of expectation in your life right now?
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