S:0604 Distinction: Desirable vs. Reasonable

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)


What do you really desire? Is it reasonable? There seems to be some confusion around these two topics, desire and reason.

A long-time style of goal setting teaches that there are several basic components of an effectively written goal and one of these is reasonableness. It says in order for a goal to be effective it must be reasonable, you must be able to “buy into” it’s possibility, both intellectually and emotionally. All in all, good advice with a good track record.

Another way to look at goals is to go for what you really want. Look for the passion. The power. The win that makes you grin.

When there is something you want so much you can taste it even before you have it, other forces kick in which assist you toward your goal. When the What (the metrics of the goal) and the Why (the feelings of having it) are strong enough, the How will show up. Even if the goal isn’t reasonable.


Coaching Point: What do you really desire?


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