(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)


This Distinction shows up most clearly when raising children, but has application in all phases of life.

Explaining standards, setting boundaries, and describing goals are all useful and necessary, whether when parenting or leading a work team. People need to know the expectations and rules. Clearly communicating them is a mark of an effective leader.

They are even more effective when you live to them yourself.

Trying to control others is risky and usually only temporarily effective. To lecture, but not live to, the standards you want sends conflicting messages. If you’re trying to control, something other than leading is going on.


Coaching Point: What is one area, important to you, where you are a great example?


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