S:1083 Distinction: Grateful vs. Prideful

(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.)


Prideful is a common condition. It’s an expression of comparison, superiority, winning; in other words, separation. It’s a product of the mind, the ego, the head, and leaves one closed off.

Grateful comes more from the heart than the head. Grateful recognizes that it’s about more than just you. There is a sense that you have been supported in some way.

The topic of this S3MC has been triggered by the date. This issue of the S3MC begins the 22nd year of its weekly publication. In the past when these annual milestones occurred I would announce them while feeling somewhat prideful. Yes, it was pretty much all about me.

Now, it’s only about gratitude. I’m grateful for you as the reader, and sometimes sharer, of them. I’m grateful we’re on this journey together. I’m grateful that you helped teach me to transcend pride.

How do you feel when you’re in the presence of someone who is chest-thumpingly prideful? Not very attractive, is it?

On the other hand, to experience someone who is grateful is to feel inclusion, shared joy, and an uplifting energy. Quite attractive.


Coaching Point: What are you grateful for?


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