(Great questions lead to great answers; weak questions, weak ones.)


“Why do I let myself become upset at what someone else does?”


Coaching Point: A companion question is, “Who pays the price for my upset?”

But wait!, you might say, “I can’t let them get away with . . . (whatever ‘they’ are doing that so upsets you). I know what’s right and they are wrong.”

Fine. Absolutely fine. The ability to discern is a useful life skill. When you discern the incorrectness/unusefulness/wrongness of another person’s behavior, do whatever is within your power to change things.

Offer a different point of view to them. Learn from them. Set a personal boundary. End a relationship. Do whatever you choose is best, but do so without being upset.

If you still believe, after considering it, that it is appropriate for you to be upset over someone else’s behavior, what does being upset cost you?


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