S:0366 Distinction: Abundant Reserves vs. Obsessive Reserves
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Reserves are one of the best things you can work on to see your life get better. When you have abundant reserves you cease to worry, you are not easily distracted from your primary mission, and […]
S:0365 Distinction: Quit vs. Stop
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) “I can stop smoking any time I want. In fact, I’ve done it a thousand of times!” This is a paraphrase of the old Mark Twain statement. When you (only) stop doing something there is the […]
S:0362 Distinction: Childlike vs. Childish
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) You know people who act childish from time to time. It’s not an attractive behavior. Why are we put off by childish behavior? Because we know that someone acting that way does not care about us. […]
S:0359 Distinction: In Joy vs. Enjoy
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) We enjoy lots of things in life. In fact, “things” is a key word for understanding this distinction. When things are involved, you can be pretty sure it is about enjoyment. You can enjoy your surroundings, […]
S:0358 Distinction: Contentment vs. Complacency
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) How often are you content? Contentment is about feeling deep satisfaction with yourself and your life. Complacency is about settling for whatever is there. Complacency is missing the spark of energy that is a part of […]
S:0353 Distinction: Self-aware vs. Self-obsessed
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) To become highly self-aware is an advanced form of personal development. When self-aware you are clear about your values, your needs, your strengths and weaknesses. You have a clarity about yourself and your place in life. […]
S:0351 Distinction: Refrain vs. Repress
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Both refrain and repress are about not taking action, but each have different energy. When you repress, you are holding back, not expressing your feelings. You are afraid to show your emotions. It is a reaction […]
S:0348 Distinction: Taking Advantage of a Situation vs. Taking Advantage of Someone
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Many of us, maybe most, were raised to believe it’s not a good thing to take advantage of someone. We were trained to be kind, considerate and loving toward others. Experience shows that is very good […]
S:0346 Distinction: Preference vs. Expectation
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Expectations are normal. Everyone has them. Why is it more useful to have preferences than expectations? Expectations are about the future. You become attached to what you expect. If it doesn’t happen, you feel let down, […]
S:0335 Distinction: Passion vs. Compulsion
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) You probably know people who tell you how passionate they are about something. Yet, when you hear their story and feel their energy, something is “off”. It could be that instead of being powered by a […]