S:0392 Distinction: Freedom vs. Security
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Do you want to retire with freedom or with security? Both, you might say. If you were to poll people about their definition of “financial independence” you would find most describe it in terms of freedom […]
S:0390 Distinction: Solution vs. Service
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) It has been said that we live in a service-based economy. Closer to the truth is that we live in a less-service-than-we-would-like economy. You surely experienced situations where service has fallen short of your expectations or […]
S:0389 Distinction: Unforgettable vs. Memorable
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) At a fine-dining restaurant a few years ago the wine steward asked the patrons if they would like to order a wine to accompany their meal. A guest replied that they would like a wine that […]
S:0381 Distinction: Question (yourself) vs. Doubt (yourself)
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) It s healthy to question yourself, to ask if what you re thinking, saying and doing is appropriate for where you are now and for where you re going. Questioning yourself prevents you from getting in […]
S:0378 Distinction: Belief vs. Bravado
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) A lot of people power their way through life using bravado. But bravado is expensive — 1) you have to continually replenish your supply, 2) you are on your own, and 3) ultimately, others see through […]
S:0377 Distinction: In Charge vs. In Control
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The phrase “in control” has several meanings. It is used here to describe a manipulating, heavy-handed approach to managing and leading. At its core it is fear-based. When you feel you must control others you are […]
S:0374 Distinction: Gift vs. Test
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) If you think everything is a gift for you to learn from and grow, then it is. If you think everything is a test to see how you are doing, then it is. It s your […]
S:0372 Distinction: Freedom-To vs. Freedom-From
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) When talking about having freedom, most people describe what they want freedom from — financial worry, unsatisfying work, a broken relationship, or some other unpleasant situation. Freedom-from is, at its core, a driving energy. And it […]
S:0371 Distinction: Awareness vs. Clarity
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Clarity — knowing stuff, having answers — is useful. You have spent most of your life learning what you need to know to have your life work. But life has become so complex that it is […]
S:0367 Distinction: Boundaries vs. Walls
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) In order to protect yourself you may have had to put up walls. However walls are, by their nature, expensive to erect and even more expensive to maintain. One of the costs of having a wall […]