S:0417 Distinction: Coaching vs. Therapy
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) People occasionally ask if coaching is therapy. Since some of the skills and processes are similar, it can look that way. However there is a big difference in approach. Coaching accepts emotions as normal functioning while […]
S:0416 Distinction: Delusion vs. Denial
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) When you have a delusion, you have a mistaken impression about something. You don t have the facts right. You are incorrect. When you are in denial, you also have a false impression about something but […]
S:0415 Distinction: Strong vs. Harsh
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This distinction is about how you correct someone’s behavior. Whether it is an employee, a vendor, your child or a friend, correcting someone’s behavior requires skill. Nobody likes a namby-pamby speaker. People who give directions in a […]
S:0414 Distinction: Acknowledge vs. Approve
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) When you acknowledge someone you re stating something about them that is core to who they are. For instance, you may acknowledge a person s boisterous enthusiasm, even though you may not admire the trait. Sensing […]
S:0413 Distinction: Reserve vs. Conserve
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) These two are similar, but have a difference in attitude. Having reserve is about setting something aside for future use. Reserves give you sufficient supplies to handle emergencies and to cover future liabilities. It is healthy planning […]
S:0410 Distinction: Serving vs. Ambitious
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) You may know someone who is part of a charitable organization and your sense of them is that they are primarily there to network with others to further their personal success. How does that make you […]
S:0407 Distinction: Informed By (the past) vs. At The Effect Of (the past)
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Your past can serve you well. You have had many experiences getting to where you are. You have learned a lot. You know what works and what doesn’t. Your past can inform you of much which […]
S:0405 Distinction: Diligent vs. Obsessive
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) A man was recently diagnosed as having adult-onset diabetes. The recommendations from his doctor included changing his diet and starting an exercise program, both of which would also reduce his weight. By following this program the […]
S:0399 Distinction: Wealthy vs. Materialistic
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) While lots of people want to be wealthy, there are also many who feel something is wrong with it. When you are materialistic you find meaning in “stuff.” It s a way to feel good about […]
S:0396 Distinction: Choice vs. Sacrifice
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) A political leader of an emerging country was asked about the great sacrifices she had made during her country s rocky road to freedom. She responded that she “had never sacrificed, merely made choices.” Her s […]