S:0761 Distinction: Self-ish vs. Selfish
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This Distinction can be tricky because there is so much cultural programming and momentum around the word ‘selfish.’ Most of us are trained from Day 1 that to be selfish is a bad behavior. “Share your […]
S:0758 Distinction: Meditate vs. Medicate
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) We medicate in order to not feel. We use TV, food, sex, drugs, low-calorie literature, and alcohol. We even use so- called positive addictions like exercise and work. It doesn’t matter what we use, the point […]
S:0754 Distinction: To Best vs. To Beat
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) There is winning and losing, but in the winning, there is being better than them or there is beating them. Being better than, or besting, is a different energy than beating. Each is a choice. When […]
S:0752 Distinction: Being Bold vs. Forcing
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Are you bold? Action-oriented? A Ready/Fire/Aim sort of person? If so, how’s that working for you? Some people are wired at DNA levels to be bold. They tend to lead the pack, create, invade, invent, disrupt […]
S:0749 Distinction: Floundering vs. Stuck
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) It may seem odd to be glad you’re floundering since it sounds like a place you wouldn’t want to be. But there is a world of difference between floundering and stuck. Stuck is frozen, no options, […]
S:0748 Distinction: Give Input vs. Criticize
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This distinction is about the tone of your delivery. When you criticize someone it is conveyed, primarily, by your tone of voice. [It may also be conveyed by your words and physical demeanor because you fully […]
S:0747 Distinction: Scared vs. Terrified
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) It’s easy to get scared. There are many things during the course of life about which you can become scared. It’s okay to be scared. But it’s not okay to be terrified. When you’re terrified you […]
S:0745 Distinction: Self-Aware vs. Self-Absorbed
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Being self-aware is being conscious of your thoughts, feelings, presence, direction, desires, talents, and joys. When you are self-aware you are open to feel a connection with others. A self-absorbed person is closed off, may have […]
S:0728 Distinction: Be Aware vs. Beware
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) “Beware!” is the sign outside a dangerous area. Beware is an indicator that you may be at risk and it’s certainly useful to know where risk and danger are present. But spending too much time looking […]
S:0721 Distinction: Liberation vs. Loss
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) All change is accompanied by a sense of loss, at least temporarily, because what was so before is no longer so, thus something feels lost. Live with the new for a while and the sense of […]