S:0716 Distinction: Authentic vs. Vulnerable
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) At first glance this might appear to be a strange Distinction since Distinctions are usually about two words (or phrases) which are typically used as synonyms. It is in pointing out the differences that the distinction […]
S:0714 Distinction: Allow vs. Tolerate
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) When you tolerate you are putting up with a situation which is not the way you want it to be — and there is some level of upset about it for you. There is nearly always […]
S:0713 Distinction: Desire For vs. Attachment To
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) What do you have a desire for? …… An easy question to answer, isn’t it? You probably had several desires come quickly to mind. That’s because to have a desire for something is natural and easy; […]
S:0712 Distinction: I Don’t Know How vs. I Can’t
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) There is no shame in not knowing how to do something. That’s what learning and growth are about — discovering how. It can be exciting to discover there is something you want to learn. I Can’t […]
S:0697 Distinction: Reality vs. Assumption
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Living by assumptions is tough. When you’re correct in an assumption, things can be okay. But when you get one wrong, it can be painful — to your ego, your beliefs, even to your confidence. Repeated […]
S:0690 Distinction: Real Goal vs. Tool Goal
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Goals can be useful. The issue is whether your goals are real or merely tools. A Tool Goal is one which will get you to an outcome that you believe will then set you up to […]
S:0688 Distinction: Insight vs. Incite
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) The words sound the same but have completely different meanings. When you have an insight you experience a new understanding, an ah-ha, a flash of new awareness. Something changes. Incite means to start or cause. Again, […]
S:0687 Distinction: Get To vs. Got To
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Remember the last time (maybe today?) you had the thought, “I’ve got to go do X.” Got To energy has a certain cost. It can drive you to accomplish wonderful things, but it is ultimately a […]
S:0686 Distinction: Free’s vs. Freeze
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Faint are well-known reactions to threat situations and are described thoroughly in psychology literature. This distinction introduces another option. Sometimes, when we’re given the opportunity to be free, we freeze. The reasons […]
S:0673 Distinction: Scan vs. Focus
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Generally, we think it’s good to be able to focus. We can accomplish a lot when we focus. Focusing provides efficiency of action and effective results. But there are times when you don’t want to focus. […]