S:0671 Distinction: Goal Setting vs. Worrying
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This seems, at first glance, to be an obvious distinction; clearly goal setting is not anything like worrying. But look deeper. Worrying is: getting a clear picture full of emotion about exactly what you DON’T want. […]
S:0663 Distinction: Responsible For vs. Take the Blame For
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Being responsible for your life is a position of strength. Own your actions; own your results. That’s being fully responsible. It doesn’t mean that everything always works out in the way you want it to. It […]
S:0662 Distinction: Skill vs. Ability
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) It’s now recognized that people have many more abilities than they suspect. For instance, it’s been said that “women are more intuitive than men.” What’s become clear is that everyone has intuitive ability, it’s simply that […]
S:0661 Distinction: Resolve vs. Fix
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Most people seem to enjoy fixing things. Something is broken, fix it. Something is out of whack, fix it. It can be very satisfying to fix stuff. So satisfying that some people look for things which need […]
S:0660 Distinction: Dine vs. Eat
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This distinction is about far more than food, but food is a great metaphor. When you eat you take in sustenance. That’s useful, but dining is more: > Eating can be done alone. Dining typically includes […]
S:0650 Distinction: It’s Not Important vs. I Don’t Care
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) If you decide to not give your time and attention to something is it because you’ve looked at the situation and decided it’s not important to you? Or is it because you just don’t care? The […]
S:0648 Distinction: Mind Field vs. Mine Field
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) We all know the dangers of a mine field — frozen behavior, dismemberment, maybe even death. Mine fields are ugly, scary things. Our minds can also have scary stuff buried. Nearly everyone has memories which contain […]
S:0647 Distinction: Love Demonstrated vs. Love Thought About
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Thinking about love is a wonderful thing. We would probably be better off if more of us thought and radiated loving thoughts more often. Ahh, but the power of action. Love demonstrated communicates so much more […]
S:0644 Distinction: And vs. Or
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) So much of the time we find ourselves choosing between two outcomes. “If I’m to have that, I’ve got to give up having this.” This propensity to assume Or limits you. For a real breakthrough start […]
S:0643 Distinction: Thrive vs. Survive
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This seems a pretty obvious distinction since it’s clearly better to thrive than merely survive. The reason for visiting this distinction is because most people have a tendency to slip into survival mode from time to […]