S:0178 Distinction: Listen For vs. Listen To
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Most people, at some point in their life, have been told that a secret to success is to become a good listener. What this usually meant was to exhibit certain physical traits such as being quiet while […]
S:0172 Distinction: Balance vs. Balancing
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) A lot of people talk about their desire to be in balance. But what is balance? How do you know when you’re “there”? What I’ve found is most people confuse being in balance with the act […]
S:0170 Distinction: Creativity vs. Creative Repackaging
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) You spent most of the early part of your life learning about stuff by acquiring knowledge and information. You picked a profession, company or job and went about learning whatever it took to be successful. All […]
S:0169 Distinction: Driving vs. Steering
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Years ago — long before I understood the concept of distinctions — I used this distinction with my kids as each was learning to drive. Almost anyone with a reasonable level of motor-center skills can learn […]
S:0168 Distinction: Loyalty vs. Indebtedness
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) When you are indebted to someone your are, in some way, obligated to them. Perhaps they did something for you and you feel a need to pay them back. An old business development technique that was […]
S:0166 Distinction: Spending Time Alone vs. Isolation
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Isolation is withdrawn, closed off and disconnected. It is feeling that you are alone in the universe. Most people have felt this way at some time in their life. Researchers tell us that the holidays are […]
S:0165 Distinction: Emotional Safety vs. Emotional Security
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) In a world (re)defined by popular literature and trendy explanations of male/female “differences” it’s easy to assume that focusing on the things that are different will lead to a greater understanding. Perhaps. But when the topic […]
S:0163 Distinction: Evolve vs. Revolve
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Have you ever felt that you were cleaning up the same mess or handling the same problem you’ve handled before? Sure, nearly everybody has. That is one of the indications of revolving — the same stuff […]
S:0162 Distinction: Intention vs. Attachment
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This is a subtle but powerful distinction. The fine line between intention and attachment may take you years to master, but it’s worth it. Attachment shows up when you require something to be a certain way […]
S:0161 Distinction: Elevate vs. Carry
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) When you elevate someone — or, more correctly, assist them to elevate themselves — you are supporting them to live their life at a higher level of awareness, understanding and behavior. A person who is elevated […]