S:0546 Distinction: Talent vs. Experience
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) A common lamentation of someone who is not happy in their work and continues to do it is, “But I ve got so much time invested in what I m doing. I can t afford to […]
S:0544 Distinction: Require vs. Expect
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) In business you expect certain things to happen and it’s useful to communicate those expectations to others, particularly if they are expectations you have of people who work for you. Clearly telling them what you expect […]
S:0538 Distinction: What’s Next? vs. Retirement
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) For a long time the life model has been — work to accumulate assets, then retire and, hopefully, live off the assets. It’s the model which served our parents and their parents. In retirement one is supposed […]
S:0533 Distinction: Mid-life Clarity vs. Mid-life Crisis
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) A mid-life crisis can include upset, trauma, tears, anger, dislocation, and several other troubling conditions. Mid-life crises are usually triggered by a sudden awareness of the passing years, of roads not taken, of relationships not fulfilled. [An […]
S:0531 Distinction: Engaging In A Process vs. Having An Agenda
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Being engaged in a process is a useful way to get things accomplished and it s normal to interact with others during the process. However, you can cross a line and have the process begin to […]
S:0529 Distinction: Direction vs. Perfection
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) If you find yourself hesitating to make a decision, it may be because you are trying to make the perfect decision, trying to achieve perfection. As the old saying goes you may be caught up in […]
S:0528 Distinction: Next Of Your Life vs. Rest Of Your Life
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) A common reason for people to have a problem making decisions is because they think a decision made now has to be correct for the rest of their life. It doesn’t. Nothing is forever. No matter how […]
S:0525 Distinction: A Plan vs. A Pipedream
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Plans are useful. The process of planning is even more useful. A good plan starts with your desires and adds real data, execution steps, responsibilities, incremental checkpoints, and defined deliverables and outcomes. An effective plan is […]
S:0516 Distinction: Engaged vs. Involved
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) When you are involved with people and organizations it includes spending time and energy with them. You can enjoy yourself and be productive. But when you re engaged you experience an additional, and deeper, level of […]
S:0514 Distinction: Encouraging vs. Pushy
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) As leaders we sometimes want people to do things faster than they currently are. (In fact, for some of us, people are always slower than we wish! You know who you are.) This distinction is about […]