S:0580 Distinction: Lapse vs. Relapse
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Awareness, action, change, growth. One of the core elements of a coaching relationship is the topic of change. Change happens in many ways and there may be lapses during the change. A lapse is a momentary […]
S:0579 Distinction: Expectation vs. Expectation
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) There are two uses of the word “expectation” in the world of coaching and personal development and, without a clear definition of which is being used, can cause confusion. The first use is to describe a […]
S:0576 Distinction: Same As vs. Less Than
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) There is an epidemic of people comparing themselves to others. [Epidemic – “a wide-spread communicable thing which makes people sick.”] Comparing yourself to others is an easy way to make yourself sick. When you compare your […]
S:0568 Distinction: Present vs. Lost
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Notice how a child experiences a new toy. They have a sense of wonder and delight. They don’t know what it is or how it works, but they’re not afraid they will make a mistake or get […]
S:0565 Distinction: Won’t vs. Can’t
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) “I won’t” is a position based on choice. “I can t” is a position based on reaction. There are some things you probably can t do such as high jump 8 ft., run a sub-4-minute mile, […]
S:0559 Distinction: Competitive vs. Combative
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) To compete is useful. Just as steel sharpens steel, competition can make you (or your team/your company) sharper by honing your skills. When you feel competitive you re naturally looking for ways to exceed your previous […]
S:0556 Distinction: What Needs To Get Done? vs. What Do I Need To Do?
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) This is a sneaky distinction. Many people have these two collapsed — they automatically think that if something needs to get done, they are the one to do it. This is, of course, particularly and understandably […]
S:0552 Distinction: Intimate vs. Vulnerable
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) Actors are frequently told to be vulnerable in order to tap into the subtle attributes of the character they are portraying. In popular literature people who are vulnerable are seen as somehow better off than others. […]
S:0548 Distinction: Full and Productive vs. Busy and Hectic
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) You already know this distinction because you have felt the difference between being productive and being hectic. Having a full and productive schedule can be fun. At the end of the day you can feel a […]
S:0547 Distinction: For vs. Against
(Distinctions are subtleties of language that, when gotten, cause a shift in a belief, behavior, value or attitude.) It’s easy to be Against something. The world seems to be full of people who are Against something. It fact, it’s fair to say there is nothing upon which everyone agrees, therefore, every issue has someone who […]